Let’s celebrate the fact that we had our first guest to our new home yesterday (family members don’t count). Yay! It’s quite an impromptu one (for me) so I didn’t prepare much for dinner. Aiks. And I know, we don’t have a proper place for guests to sit or hang out yet – the thing that we call sofa – but hang in there, it will come along the way.

So we chit chat about hot tub covers at BeyondNice.com and wedding; typical prewedding photoshoot, video on wedding day, how expensive the package is, blablabla; and played back our wedding video for hubby’s friend to see.

When I looked back at the video, I can’t deny that it’s so typical Chinese wedding ceremony, to be specific – typical Medanese type. And the video is just like a documentary, nothing artistic at all. Can’t believe we paid so much for the video and prewedding photo where we needed to bend our body in whatever angle so we looked photogenic.

Yes, I’m regretting that our wedding happened too early (note: am not regretting this marriage life ok!) thing is so much wonderful and artistic nowadays. Also, what’s MC, what’s ballet dance, bleh… (sometimes we gotta surrender to culture and parent’s request).

With that said, as a wedding-graduate I have a piece of advice: no need to spend too much $$ in wedding day (be creativity and budget-savvy), better spend it for other aspect of your marriage life such as travel together or home sweet home.

I know, wedding is once in a life time event, so it’s only normal to make it memorable and grand. Yeap, but don’t splurge too much, you might regret it later.

Cause the good side (once in a life time event) is also the down side. It’s that one day only (or two days if you split the wedding ceremony and dinner on different day), and then POOFF… back to normal life.

People will only talk about your wedding day for the first few months (or longer if your wedding photos are being featured in well-known wedding blogs, but that usually isn’t the case in where I live). Then people starts haunting you with when-you-want-to-have-baby question. Speaking from experience *cough* You left with picture and video only as witnesses, that you probably don’t even want to see again. Again speaking from experience.

I guess what’s important is to know that marriage life is the core here and not the wedding day. A grand wow-ing wedding day doesn’t guarantee a happy marriage life.

For you desperado out there who freak out and say: I need to work for at least 3 – 5 years then I only I can afford to get married, hold on… it can be done in a simple way yet everyone still have fun, instead of sitting in a table watching shows (singer, dancer, games, etc) for 2 hours where guests don’t even have chance to interact/chitchat with the bride and groom. Yes, that’s how my wedding day was, not fun kay?

Some more I find it so not worthy to spend your years of saving just for one BIG day. Heh, ironic.

As for prewedding photoshoot, there is no rule that you must get a package from bridal, unless you want a convenient solution. No rule that you must wear wedding gowns, the more the better, for photoshoot.

Seriously, no rules of how you want your prewedding photoshoot and wedding ceremony to be. Unless of course the parent sets rules and expectation. It’s hard to say no then. Else, just do it the way that you and your partner like + feel comfortable, not based on what is normally done by crowds (typical stuffs).