I’ve just heard the divorce news from one of my high school friend. Am still shock. No idea what is the problem behind that brave decision. No way to help. I can only wish her the best in starting a brand new life.

Lately I’ve also heard some break-up story from friends, whom were in a 4 to 5 years of relationship. Some of the reasons: because of long distance relationship (glad that my boy and I managed to pass this chapte), because one meets a better person (in terms of financial / look / beauty / caring, etc – like suddenly your lover no longer attractive and need best diet supplement ), because there is no suitable or same vision and mission anymore (hey, every couple used to have the same vision mission in the beginning, how can it disappear in the end?) and others.

It just brings up the realization that quality is the important player when it comes to relationship, instead of quantity. I mean, the long dating period (more than 4 years) doesn’t guarantee that the relationship will continue to marriage and the love will stay forever and live happily ever after like Cinderella story. If there is no quality of communication, interaction, whatever action, during that more-than-4-years period, then one shall be prepared to welcome dooms day. It goes the same if after marriage you see your spouse everyday but there is no quality during the time spent together, sooner or later it is dooms day.

Someone said,”You guys are married already, what to scare of (break up)?” Um.. what about divorce after marriage? After all, marriage isn’t the last stage of our love life. We still need to continue learn and understand about each other, give the attention just like during the early stage of dating period, etc. Else, people changes constantly and the feeling might change too, if one can’t follow up with it.

Okay, enough said. I am no expert in dating or love life. Shall take good care of my own life and relationship instead.

Oh, decided to add that meeting the right person at the right time does matter too. It’s hard to define Mr. and Ms. Right, guess it’s all goes back to gut feel? Whatever, I’ve found mine, that’s all I need to know for now.

Yea right, unless he is ready to have instant noodle, Indomie with egg to be specific, as his daily meal. I was (and am) a bad cooker who was good in creating kitchen disaster.

Although cooking skill wasn’t in the list of why he inserted the wedding ring into my fourth finger, having the skill in the future will obviously be a plus point. So yeah someday in the near future I will surely venture in the kitchen area and cook proper daily meals for my boy. By proper I mean anything aside from fried egg (ugh!), fried rice, that kind of stuff.

The 26 days time in Medan (Indonesia) was over and I’m back to Sibu (Malaysia) already on last Sunday! Lotsa stories to tell about the Sunday flight from useless web check-in service from Airasia to annoying and money-minded airport staffs in Polonia airport, Medan. Shall leave those for the next entries cause I don’t want it to spoil the happy mood of this entry.

So, what’s the good news huh? Umm.. no, we aren’t expecting Wong junior, not for the next 2 – 3 years, incase you are wondering or maybe expecting our baby shower invitations this year. It’s about the legal stuff. We have filed/reported our marriage in Medan and got that piece of paper, which means the marriage is valid and legal in the eyes of governments and law from both countries. Yippie~!

This morning we went to apply for 6 months social pass which will be renewed every year. The procedure isn’t as scary as what we imagined. Though we went there back and forth for 3 times (cause of incomplete requirements) in a day, but we managed to settle the application stuff ourselves. Didn’t even need to hire someone to do it for us. Just need to wake up early and spare our working time. Most importantly, it is oh-so-affordable! We only spent RM10 for the stamp, RM7 for typing some letter and a few Ringgit for photostat purpose.

Now we only need to wait for the interview call and wait for up to 3 months to get the pass.

One of the main points of us getting married is to end the long distance relationship. LDR didn’t only make us mentally and emotionally tired but also financially broke. Okay, not 100% broke but it just seems like a waste to keep on spending on the flight ticket for years. Better spend the money on best seo software to increase our online business. Let’s not go into the details.

So, you can imagine how happy we were when we tied the knot on end of last year. Like, one burden is gone and hello to freedom. But… little did I know, it also marked the beginning of another LDR. Yes, an on-going and long term LDR with my family especially dearest Mum.

My boy and I originally planned that our next visit will be on next year Chinese New Year. But things come in and plan has to change, hence this year alone I have scheduled two trip to see my Mum. Just planned both during this 2 weeks. Let’s see my schedule:

• 2 – 28 March, which is now, fly all the way from Sibu to KL and KL to Medan. Main purpose is to settle the marriage registration and apply 3 months social visa. Aside from that, is to meet up with family and friends, indulge with Medan foods.
• 22 – 26 July, meet up with my bro and Mum in KL since dearest bro will be going to the same university (of where I graduated). I will be taking the flight alone this time while my boy taking care of our web business at home. Hehe..
• end of November (haven’t booked ticket yet, but it will be 3 days trip only), meet up with my parent at Jakarta, since my youngest aunt is getting married. My boy will be going with me, but not sure if I will go back to Medan with my parent, still thinking.

See, I basically going to see my Mum once in 3 – 4 months time. The frequency of meeting reminds me of our LDR time back then. Well, of course I’m happy that I can meet my Mum so often. What I hate is the planning and checking ticket fee (read: cheap promo time) thing. Sigh. I’ll learn how to deal with it since it seems that I can’t get away from this 3 words : long distance relationship. LDR is part of my life yea.

Yay, the real BIG day that we have been waiting for is finally here! It’s been a long tiring troublesome journey to get this piece of paper. It involves changing religion, flying here and there, mailing via DHL, take 6 – 7 hours bus for 3 times, went through so many dead end road only to find the correct road, etc. Thanks to our parents for helping us throughout the process; by fetching us to the consulate office and all. I shall end my Oscar speech here before it gets longer.

Went to JPN (Jabatan Pendaftaran Negara) early morning 8am and waited for our turn. We must wear formal apparel, including our witnesses. No Hudson jeans and slipper are allowed. So here I am with my cheongsam which was intended to be wore on Chinese New Year and my boy in long sleeve shirt and suit. All simplified, I just tied up my hair and applied very light makeup.

Here is the door to the wedding room, where we officially tied the knot. Madam T, the Chinese lady officer who is in charge of marriage stuff, is having a Chinese New Year leave I suppose. The person who replaced her was so KNS. WTF cannot take picture in the wedding room cause it might disturb the process and only we and our 2 witnesses can be in the room? We went there few times and we always see bunch of people going in or coming our from the wedding room. Not just 4 people lo.

Then WTF she was so confident saying that we won’t be needed that original single-status-letter when filing the marriage certificate in Indonesia? Never heard of a back-up plan is it? I doubt she knows well about the procedure in Indonesia and simply give us some general assumption. Just like how Madam T told us that it is impossible Indonesia gov doesn’t allow inter religion marriage (Christian and Buddhist). But see what happened, it is really impossible lo. In the end we have to waste more time thanks to the assumption.

With our witnesses, my boy’s friend and girlfriend.

After the short simple oath and signing process, here’s our marriage certificate. If you are wondering about my citizenship, I’m still holding my Indonesia IC with tourist visa. We will take time in getting the long-term-social-visit-pass. Regarding Malaysia citizenship, we’ll see our luck in the future. Or we might be adventurous, find other better country and move there. Who knows.